I love the book by Deepak Chopra called Super brain. This book really put into perspective for me the connection between body and mind. The thing that made the most sense was that some things at our core are hard wired and some are not. SO what does this mean......it means things like conflict are a human trait we can't actually change. Humans are designed by nature to want or desire conflict. And it makes sense. We want to solve puzzles, want want to change, we evolve the fastest when a huge conflict or problem occurs.
Having this knowledge is very important. It means we are in the driver seat of evolution. Change isn't willy nilly. Its not random or out of our control. Well....it doesn't have to be. If we approach life knowing this then we can make better decisions. Every decision we make, whether we think we are in control or not is our higher brain dealing with our base line brain. The base line brain sees a conflict and gets excited, the higher brain then figures out how to deal with the conflict.
Of course this isn't always easy. We may not realize that we are "deciding" on a decision. Positive or negative we are choosing the outcome. This can sound heartless but it is true. If we are making decisions without being conscious were still making the decision. So the trick is to decide what to do. You can choose to not deal with something, you can choose to not make a decisions and let the chips fall, you can choose to make a decision without all the facts or information....but your still making a decision.
So knowing this changes everything. Evolving your own life is exciting. When we are in the driver seat of all our decisions and take responsibility for all the decisions, then life becomes a whole different experience. So heres what to do.... the next conflict that springs up, step back and take a deep breath, then make a decision. This is a simple thing but can change the outcome immensely. Knowing conflict is something we all want and need and then deciding to have that conflict be your friend will change the next conflict in your life and your own personal evolution will be in the direction you want.
Conflict makes us tick....so choose to make conflict positive and watch your life become the dream you want it to be.